| Wedding Etiquette Tips |
| WEDDING ETIQUETTE Tip #1 Oh Romeo, Romeo ... Bringeth Not A Guest We Don't Know! |
Tip #1: okay people, here is a crash course in wedding etiquette. If your invitation says, Miss
Jane Doe & guest, then you are allowed to bring a date, guest, escort or whatever you want to
call them. If your invitation DOES NOT SAY Mr John Doe and guest... THEN YOU ARE NOT
ALLOWED TO BRING ONE. C'mon people... I myself as a bride,have had a few very
unpleasant & uncomfortable (did I mention) unnecessary experiences with friends and family
who have actually gotten salty with me because they can't bring a guest to my wedding which I
am paying for. They have absolutely NO knowledge of what my budget is, my financial
situation or space allocation so HOW RUDE ARE They TO ASSUME the bride /groom are
WILLING TO PAY FOR a person they DON'T KNOW FROM ADAM! The world is getting
more and more backwards by the day!
As a CERTIFIED WEDDING PLANNER (through the wedding planning institute). Bringing a
guest without the permission of the Bride or Groom is Rude and out of order. With wedding
prices the way they are these days, recession woes and people losing their jobs right and left,
guests should have more consideration for the B&G and stop being so selfish and caught up
with how they will look on the wedding day "dateless". If you can go potty by yourself, shopping
by yourself or eat by yourself then going to a wedding in which you will probably know atleast
one other person shouldn't be that difficult.
It's not about you... for that one day... it is all about the Bride & Groom and who they feel
comfortable bringing to their wedding. If you have an issue with it, Don't GO!... the show will go
on without you. However, you should consider it an honor that you were important enough to
be invited. And don't get offended if someone who is important to you (but unknown to the
Bride & Groom) can't come. Always remember that the bride & groom would invite the world if
they could afford to but most can't. So try to be understanding and give them and their pockets
a break. Observe some etiquette!
P.S. It is okay to ask the bride and groom if you can bring a guest if it is not indicated on your
invite (if you are ballsy enough to double check) however if the answer is No, just be mature
and understanding about it. Temper tantrums are not Sexy... Maintain the Sexy!
Save your "bringing a date" for an upcoming holiday party for corporations that have money to
throw around like that but remember the average individual doesn't.
Jane Doe & guest, then you are allowed to bring a date, guest, escort or whatever you want to
call them. If your invitation DOES NOT SAY Mr John Doe and guest... THEN YOU ARE NOT
ALLOWED TO BRING ONE. C'mon people... I myself as a bride,have had a few very
unpleasant & uncomfortable (did I mention) unnecessary experiences with friends and family
who have actually gotten salty with me because they can't bring a guest to my wedding which I
am paying for. They have absolutely NO knowledge of what my budget is, my financial
situation or space allocation so HOW RUDE ARE They TO ASSUME the bride /groom are
WILLING TO PAY FOR a person they DON'T KNOW FROM ADAM! The world is getting
more and more backwards by the day!
As a CERTIFIED WEDDING PLANNER (through the wedding planning institute). Bringing a
guest without the permission of the Bride or Groom is Rude and out of order. With wedding
prices the way they are these days, recession woes and people losing their jobs right and left,
guests should have more consideration for the B&G and stop being so selfish and caught up
with how they will look on the wedding day "dateless". If you can go potty by yourself, shopping
by yourself or eat by yourself then going to a wedding in which you will probably know atleast
one other person shouldn't be that difficult.
It's not about you... for that one day... it is all about the Bride & Groom and who they feel
comfortable bringing to their wedding. If you have an issue with it, Don't GO!... the show will go
on without you. However, you should consider it an honor that you were important enough to
be invited. And don't get offended if someone who is important to you (but unknown to the
Bride & Groom) can't come. Always remember that the bride & groom would invite the world if
they could afford to but most can't. So try to be understanding and give them and their pockets
a break. Observe some etiquette!
P.S. It is okay to ask the bride and groom if you can bring a guest if it is not indicated on your
invite (if you are ballsy enough to double check) however if the answer is No, just be mature
and understanding about it. Temper tantrums are not Sexy... Maintain the Sexy!
Save your "bringing a date" for an upcoming holiday party for corporations that have money to
throw around like that but remember the average individual doesn't.
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Tip #2: So if you don't necessarily qualify for the next leading role for the hilariously funny wedding flick 27 Dresses
because you've never been in or even been asked to be in a wedding, don't cry. Instead look at yourself in the mirror
and ask yourself if you are being as friendly as you think you are. Are you one of those people who thinks they are
someone's "BFF" and the other person doesn't feel the same way or doesn't bestow the courtesy of that title upon you
because they have a few more important long-standing relationships ahead of yours? If this is the case, <SELAH>
Pause and think about it and why!
Now you may be wondering how does this relate to weddings Tiff; well here's how. .
If you were not asked to be in someone's wedding as part of the bridal party (either a bridesmaid or a groomsmen)...
DO NOT ASK! It is super (and I emphasize the word SUPER) awkward and uncomfy for the B&G 2 Be. In stead wait
to be asked. Although you may be a close friend to someone, know your definitive status. Here are the categories in
order of importance
1.Family
2.BFF
3. Close Friend
4. Friend
5. Colleague (usually referring to work atmosphere)
6. Acquaintance
7. Enemy
8. Stranger
If you DO NOT FALL WITHIN THE FIRST 3 Categories for the B&G-to-be then you are probably not in the running to
becoming America's next Bridesmaid or Groomsmen (ANBOG).
Here's a personal experience to backup my tip:
A few mos back when I first became engaged, I had the girlfriend of Friend (notice the category) congratulate me and
yada yada yada and then with the sincerest and most serious face I've ever seen, Ask me if she could be a
bridesmaid! .... At that moment, I was like, I'm sorry do I know you..(as a flood of the following questions ran through
my brain)....
Have we ever gone shopping together?
Slept over each others houses and ate rocky road ice cream while cussing at the TV?
Do you even know where I live?
Have I ever been to a birthday party, graduation party or any other milestone social gathering in your life?
What's my favorite color?
What's my father's first name?
Wait even better question ... What's my fiance's name?
As I awkwardly (and secretly not so hesitantly) struggled to push out a diplomatic way of saying NO... I wondered what
would compel someone who fell into the (Acquaintance and below categories) to be so bold as to ask me if she could
accompany me down the aisle on the biggest day of my life when I hadn't so much as even known her last name or
where she even lived.
It was quite strange. . . I never did figure out the answer so I have resolved to chuck it up to Diagnosis Desperation
with an chronic case of Confusion.
Now if you ARE within the top 3 category and still aren't asked, don't take offense or be upset with the B&G-to-be but
rather consider the fact that they may have many siblings or a preference that may not include you for the bridal party
but they are including you as a guest and be grateful.
So my last and final tip end with: KNOW YOUR STATUS PEOPLE , KNOW YOUR STATUS so you don't look like a
desperate fool
This is a complimentary wedding tip brought to you by Tiffanie J McKinnon (certified wedding & social event planner)
for epiphanyevents.com
because you've never been in or even been asked to be in a wedding, don't cry. Instead look at yourself in the mirror
and ask yourself if you are being as friendly as you think you are. Are you one of those people who thinks they are
someone's "BFF" and the other person doesn't feel the same way or doesn't bestow the courtesy of that title upon you
because they have a few more important long-standing relationships ahead of yours? If this is the case, <SELAH>
Pause and think about it and why!
Now you may be wondering how does this relate to weddings Tiff; well here's how. .
If you were not asked to be in someone's wedding as part of the bridal party (either a bridesmaid or a groomsmen)...
DO NOT ASK! It is super (and I emphasize the word SUPER) awkward and uncomfy for the B&G 2 Be. In stead wait
to be asked. Although you may be a close friend to someone, know your definitive status. Here are the categories in
order of importance
1.Family
2.BFF
3. Close Friend
4. Friend
5. Colleague (usually referring to work atmosphere)
6. Acquaintance
7. Enemy
8. Stranger
If you DO NOT FALL WITHIN THE FIRST 3 Categories for the B&G-to-be then you are probably not in the running to
becoming America's next Bridesmaid or Groomsmen (ANBOG).
Here's a personal experience to backup my tip:
A few mos back when I first became engaged, I had the girlfriend of Friend (notice the category) congratulate me and
yada yada yada and then with the sincerest and most serious face I've ever seen, Ask me if she could be a
bridesmaid! .... At that moment, I was like, I'm sorry do I know you..(as a flood of the following questions ran through
my brain)....
Have we ever gone shopping together?
Slept over each others houses and ate rocky road ice cream while cussing at the TV?
Do you even know where I live?
Have I ever been to a birthday party, graduation party or any other milestone social gathering in your life?
What's my favorite color?
What's my father's first name?
Wait even better question ... What's my fiance's name?
As I awkwardly (and secretly not so hesitantly) struggled to push out a diplomatic way of saying NO... I wondered what
would compel someone who fell into the (Acquaintance and below categories) to be so bold as to ask me if she could
accompany me down the aisle on the biggest day of my life when I hadn't so much as even known her last name or
where she even lived.
It was quite strange. . . I never did figure out the answer so I have resolved to chuck it up to Diagnosis Desperation
with an chronic case of Confusion.
Now if you ARE within the top 3 category and still aren't asked, don't take offense or be upset with the B&G-to-be but
rather consider the fact that they may have many siblings or a preference that may not include you for the bridal party
but they are including you as a guest and be grateful.
So my last and final tip end with: KNOW YOUR STATUS PEOPLE , KNOW YOUR STATUS so you don't look like a
desperate fool
This is a complimentary wedding tip brought to you by Tiffanie J McKinnon (certified wedding & social event planner)
for epiphanyevents.com
| Wedding Etiquette #2 ASKETH NOT WHAT YOU CAN DO TO BE IN A WEDDING , RATHER WAITETH UNTIL YOU ARE ASKETH'D. |
